To Be Loved and To Be Safe

Figure it out. Can you possibly be loved and be safe at the same time? I don't really know if somebody has given a thought about it - whether if it's possible or not.

Do you really have to impose safety in a relationship? In what sense? Does security means safety? Well, I think I just have to break it all down randomly.

Financial Safety

True, magastos din ang love kahit papano. It sucks that the concept of love has been too commercial and overrated nowadays na tipong siya ang madalas na themes sa songs, tv series, and movies.

The courtship stage is also expensive. Of course, it's in this stage that you really give all your best until you hit the spot. Then after you hit the spot, it's either you continue the expense maintenance or trim it down. But at least you got it in the end.

But the most expensive of all is marriage - from the wedding to setting up your family. 'Nuff said I guess.

But can financial safety and love really combine? I don't think so. Money, as they say, can buy you happiness, but not love.

Marry for love and not money.

Emotional Security

Most of us thinks that to be secured, one has to be in a relationship. I guess it's to boost self-esteem. Perhaps it's also to be "in" with your peers.

When you reach your mid-20s and up, that's the time when most of us feel insecure of not yet being in a relationship. Tipong ano ba'ng mali? Pangit ba ako? Kulang ba ako sa ayos? O dapat ako na ang manligaw? Pathetic. Until we forget the true essence of being in a relationship - it's love.

Standards

We usually set standards for ideal partners (e.g. must be good-looking, smart, ambitious, etc.) Oh c'mon! How sure are you in the first place that you deserve someone like that?

Everybody deserves to be loved. It's just that not everybody deserves the love of everyone.

Because You're on the Same Wavelength or Exact Opposites

Maswerte ako ngayon na at least, may hawig sa ugali ko at interests ko ang mga guys na na-e-encounter ko ngayon. Natuto na rin akong matipuhan sila unti-unti. But still, it won't guarantee love in the end. It's just that, I can easily get along with them.

But usually, I always fall for my exact opposites. And it was never peaceful for me - it's always a mess. Some of them I truly loved, some of them were nang-gago lang.

Couples are actually different. There are somewhat of the same interests and character and some are exact opposites of each other. Have nothing against with them. But for me, personally, I decided to go for someone who's at least 85-90% same character with me. But still, love should exist.

It's Your Decision!!!

Madaming sulsol sa mundo at 'di maiiwasan yun. Nakakainis 'yun lalo na 'pag kapamilya mo ang sulsol. Minsan nadadala tayo - mabuti sana kung talagang mahal natin yung tao, pa'no kung hindi? Masisisi mo ba yung mga nagsulsol? P*cha hindi!

Why do you need to please people anyway when you're in love? Ikaw naman ang makikipag-relasyon 'di ba?

Love Vs. Obsession Vs. Lust

DON'T EVER MISTAKE LOVE FOR OBSESSION AND LUST. It's totally different.

In lust, you focus on the sexual aspect - it's more on the physical. While in love, you focus on the whole person - his beauty inside and out.

If you're obssessed, you want to be with the person the whole time. You take control of him/her. You won't let go of him no matter what it takes. In love, there's trust. You let go of the person when you have to, even if it hurts.

My bottomline: You can be loved and be safe at the same time. It's just that they don't mix.


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