Someone...

We've been together now for such a long time
Through every trial we'd ever care to go
When I look back I almost can't believe it
We're not the same people that we used to know

With all the years behind me spent pretending
I didn't need someone like you around
It makes it even harder to imagine
The life I'd be livin', if I hadn't found

SOMEONE TO HOLD ME, THE WAY THAT YOU DO
SOMEONE WHO NEEDS ME, THE WAY I NEED YOU
SOMEONE TO SHOW ME, A WAY THAT IS TRUE
SOMEONE TO LOVE ME.......THE WAY THAT I LOVE YOU

When there was no one left for me to turn to
When all the world I knew was fallin' down
Oh there were times I could not face the mornin'
But everything's changed since the day that I found

SOMEONE TO HOLD ME, THE WAY THAT YOU DO
SOMEONE WHO NEEDS ME, THE WAY I NEED YOU
SOMEONE TO SHOW ME, A WAY THAT IS TRUE
SOMEONE TO LOVE ME.......THE WAY THAT I LOVE YOU

Come on-Come on-Come on-Come on now!!


SOMEONE TO HOLD ME, THE WAY THAT YOU DO
SOMEONE WHO NEEDS ME, THE WAY I NEED YOU
SOMEONE TO SHOW ME, A WAY THAT IS TRUE

YEAH!!! SOMEONE TO HOLD ME, THE WAY THAT YOU DO
SOMEONE WHO NEEDS ME, THE WAY I NEED YOU
SOMEONE TO SHOW ME, A WAY THAT IS TRUE
SOMEONE TO LOVE ME.......THE WAY THAT I LOVE YOU

No One Can Really Hide From Being In Love

Even if you stop your mouth from telling someone how you love him/her or hide your true feelings from your friends and colleagues, it will definitely come out from your eyes, hands or feet.

You can run, but you can never hide!

Love - The Main Ingredient of Every Relationship

Recipe - Relationship

Ingredients:

Trust
Responsibility
Chemistry/Compatibility
Patience
Faith
Loyalty
Acceptance
Understanding
Fun
Excitement
Love

Instructions:

1. Discover your Chemistry/Compatibility in both of you while getting to know each other to determine whether you are getting somewhere to a relationship. Be ready to Accept the strengths and weaknesses of each other.
   
2. Have enough Patience while you're on the "getting to know each other" stage.
   
3. Share a lot of Fun and Excitement while getting to know each other.
4. Be aware of your Responsibilities as time goes by.
5. Prove your Loyalty and Love as you are about to start a relationship.
6. Have some Patience and Understanding in times of trials and miscommunications.
7. Build your Trust to each other to avoid misunderstandings and to lessen insecurities.
8. Maintain the Fun and Excitement in your relationship.
   
9. Let God be the Center of your relationship and have Faith.
10. Most importantly, Love and Accept each other. =]

Love won't stand alone in every relationship. But a relationship won't work without love.

Checkmate - Rivermaya

I.

A candle light dinner for two

But there’s only me and there’s no you

Waiting for the flowers to bloom

It consumes my world

Thoughts reach up to the moon

It’s understandable that I’m not thinking right

My heart is leading the way

It contradicts my mind but I say

CHORUS:

Two different people, one way or another, will find a way to make it work

Some little time for each other is good for the soul

Happily ever after, if you want to live

Look for another side of each other

When can time and logic follow?

II.

So I guess in the meantime I’ll watch a movie by myself

Not feeling lonely I have some friends to keep me company

But if, when the time comes that I see who’s meant to be with me

Whoever that’ll be

It doesn’t have to be destiny because

CHORUS:

Two different people, one way or another, will find a way to make it work

Some little time for each other is good for the soul

Happily ever after, if you want to be

Look for another side of each other

When can time and logic follow?

Follow the link below to listen to the song:

Some Definitions of Love - Agree or Disagree?

If you're thinking of me, you have to let me know, 'cause loneliness is such a waste ...

the truth on the word "LOVE" so we get what we want, but if you say the word "I CARE" you'll never get what you want.

"I love u" has more effect on women thatn on men .

When, you love somebody, you love them for their good AND bad qualities. Its hard to love somebody that's perfect.

You know you love someone when you cannot put into words how they make you feel ...

With each passing time, a little piece of my heart dies in its yearning of the memory of the past

"Love is just a dream that walks away when you open your eyes"

Love: the greatest pleasure in the world, but also the deepest wound someone recieve.

Source: http://deewai.multiply.com/journal/item/38

Long-Distance Relationships

Love makes the world go round, but doesn't conquer all. This holds true to couples who are in a long-distance relationship. Just like any other love, being in love with someone who is far away from you forever is possible. But it doesn't mean though, that one will be able to survive having a relationship with someone who's far away and make it last.

Many people I know personally broke up with their partners who had gone abroad because of their failed relationships. And one of the major reasons is the other one found someone new in his/her respective location.

So you can't blame some couples who break up before the other leave. Despite the presence of love, trust in the relationship is slowly losing because of lack of physical presence, which is important in building trust. Not even instant messaging, e-mailing, and long-distance calls will solve this problem.

In fairness, some couples survive. But these are cases of people whose partner are just staying away for a given period of time.

Some makes expensive duties like scheduling a constant visit to the partner's place. Still, it will not guarantee trust.

So if your partner decides to stay in a far away place for good, your relationship should not be taken for granted. Be realistic on the advantages and disadvantages of staying in your relationship then decide whether you're going to pursue it or not. However, be realistic on the outcome. For security, you may decide to follow and stay with your partner where he/she will transfer.

Trust is important in every relationship. And without physical presence, trust in a relationship has a slim chance to work out. And my stand is...long-distance relationship is most likely to fail...

Does First Love Really Never Die?

"First love never dies"

Sobrang gasgas na 'tong kasabihan na 'to.


Well, doesn't it die? If so, why?

First love. It could be the most exciting, most fun, and yet the most painful, most messed up and most dragging. But one thing is for sure, it's the most memorable one.

Having a first love is the first step for us to fully understand the meaning of love and how it feels to be in love. And it's expected to be imperfect as most firsts are. However, for some reasons, most people hold on to it that no matter how it turned out, they would always come back [to it].

There is something in the relationship with the first love that's very special compared to the preceding relationships one had or would have. The very first time of feeling the way how is it to be in love makes it special that most of us can't let go of. And it will definitely not repeat on the preceding relationships. That's is why most people hold on to it - whether if it's right or wrong.

Yet, not most people really end up with their first loves. Perhaps, they learned to let go. Perhaps, they realized it's not meant to be. Perhaps, they wanted their first loves to be happy - that's how they love them.

And for those who ended up with their firsts, awwwwwwww!!! What a romantic love story and I envy them. Well, that's life.

First love is always memorable. But you don't need to let it stay in your heart unless it's truly the one for you. It's really up to you if you let it die or not. At least it won't die in your memories =]

Mga Sulsol, Para Ito sa Inyo - Ako ang Nagmamay-Ari ng Puso Ko!!!

Likas na sa tao ang maki-tsismis at maki-alam sa paligid nila. Okay lang kung ang mga bagay na 'yun ay may kinalaman sa kanila. Pero, paano kung hindi na?

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Likas sa mga Pilipino ang maki-alam sa buhay ng iba kahit wala silang kinalaman dito o kahit hindi naman sila naaapektuhan nito sa ano mang paraan. Mahilig lang silang magpa-apekto. O kaya naman, gusto lang nilang makasali sa eksena.

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Likas na mahilig ang mga Pinoy na may nasasabi sa isang tao lalo na kung hindi maganda - sa panlabas na kaanyuan man, pagkatao, at pag-uugali nito. Wala silang paki-alam kung nakakasakit sila ng damdamin, basta masabi lang ang nais nilang sabihin. Madalas, ang mga tinitira nila, mga wala namang ginagawa sa kanila.

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Mahilig din maki-alam ng mga tao sa buhay-pag-ibig ng kapwa nila. Kahit 'di naman nila kailangan makisali, ipapasok pa rin nila ang mga sarili nila.

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Ugali ng ilan sa atin ang ipareha ang isa sa isa. Minsan, 'pag ginagawa natin ang ganoon, hindi natin naiisip kung talaga ba'ng ang pinapareha natin ay talagang nakalaan sa isa't-isa. Basta para sa atin, bagay sila kaya dapat sila ang magkapareha.

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Ito lang ang isa sa mga dahilan kung bakit sila nakiki-alam:

1. Katayuan sa buhay - Kung mayaman ka, ipapareha ka nila sa mayaman and vice versa.
2. Panlabas na kaanyuan - Kung maganda ipapareha ka sa gwapo and vice versa.
3. Kapag hindi mo kapareho ng estado sa buhay o walang chemistry mga mukha ninyo, for some reasons, nasusuka sila at paghihiwalayin nila kayo.
4. Pangit ang ugali ng napili at ipapareho ka nila sa tingin nilang "mas mabait" kahit hindi mo naman mahal.
5. Hindi kayo bagay at mas may bagay "daw" sayo. At pilit ka'ng ipapareha sa isang tao kahit hindi mo gusto.
6. Ayaw lang nilang makitang masaya ang kapwa nila - it's a common Filipino mentality.

At hindi sila titigil hangga't hindi sila nagtatagumpay! Kainis ano?

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Kapag pag-ibig na ang pinag-uusapan, wala nang karapatan ang mga sulsol!!! Tanging ang nagmamay-ari lamang ng puso ang makakapag-desisyon nito. Lumayo na kayo'ng mga sulsol dahil hindi niyo pagmamay-ari ang puso ng kahit sino man!!!

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Dahil ako ang nagmamay-ari ng puso ko, ako lang ang higit na mas nakaka-alam kung kanino ito titibok o tumitibok. Ako ang nagmamay-ari ng puso, kaya ako ang higit na mas nakaka-alam kung sino ang makakasundo nito, hindi ang ibang tao.

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Ako ang makikipag-relasyon, ako ang makikisama, ang ang magpapakasal, at ako ang magkaka-anak. Kaya wala sa ni sino man ang maaaring magdikta sa puso ko dahil may sarili itong pagpapasya.

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Hindi na rin ako bata at marami na ring naranasan ang puso ko na ligaya't sakit. Pinagsisihan ko man ang ilan, marami naman ako'ng mga aral na natutunan. At kahit paano, pinagtibay ng mga iyon ang puso ko na siyang nagbigay ng tiwala sa aking sarili. Kaya bakit ako magpapadikta o magpapasulsol?

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And to those who are in love or will be in love, follow your heart 'coz it will surely lead you to the right person. Just learn how to listen to it properly and understand fully what it's trying to tell you.

The Importance of Heartache - The Causes and Effects

heartache \ˈhärt-ˌāk\

n (1602): anguish of mind: SORROW
Webster's Ninth New Collegiate Dictionary p. 559

n: sorrow, anguish

The New American Roget's College Thesaurus p. 370

an emotional illness of the heart that can somewhat affect one's psychological balance (my own definition)

The most depressing moment one can possibly encounter is having a heartache. It can hurt you like you are undergoing a serious medical operation, being hit by lightning, and losing in a competition. And whether we admit it or not, having a heartache creates a big impact in each and everyone of us.

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Here are just few of the reasons why a person experiences a heartache:

1. Being dumped for another or just simply losing the feelings.
2. When the person can't reciprocate one's love.
3. Death of a loved one.

And whether one deserves it or not, it's inevitable. It's something that one cannot escape from in just a few minutes, even if it's decided to be ended.

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And since it's inevitable, the effects of a heartache are contagious to every aspect of one's life. Relationsips with other people (e.g family, friends, colleagues) can be ruined. Sometimes, some people can't work properly at school or work. Then, it will lead one to self-pity or low self-esteem. Then from there, one's life would be a mess.

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In some cases, one would try to escape through alcoholism, excessive partying, shifting the focus at work or career, or love on the rebound. In short, escape-mechanism.

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Some take medications (or should I call it):

1. Crying it all out until it's gone
2. Writing songs or poems, or other art-involvement
3. Confronting the person
4. Seeking psychological or professional help

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Whether in a positive or negative way, a heartache definitely molds one's character or personality. And in whatever way a heartache might mold one person , it will definitely turn one into a better person eventually.

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So no matter how painful a heartache can be, one should not take it as if it's the end of the world. Learn the lessons and live the learnings. It's definitely normal to feel angry and sad, but don't let it stay in you. For sure, after a heartache, a bright tomorrow is right ahead - be it for your lovelife or career, or both.

A Link From a Friend

It's a girl/boy perspective. I don't know where she got it though. =]

http://ystal12twelve.multiply.com/journal/item/7

A Famous Quote From Regine-Aga Movie

One of my favorite Filipino movies...actually.

I have the VHS tape of this one. Sayang lang wala ng masyadong VHS players ngayon =[

Kung Bakit Kailangan Masaktan

Dahil Tanging Ikaw by Jaya


Bakit kailangan puso ay masaktan
Bago maintindihan ang siyang nararamdaman
At kahit iwasa’y naro’n sa damdamin
Yakap at mga halik ay nadarama pa rin


Dahil tanging ikaw ang siyang lahat
Nang mawalay ka nang minsa’y hindi ko matanggap
Kulang ang sandali pag ika’y wala
Sadyang kapag wala ka’y wala rin ang tuwa


Kung ang ‘yong puso’y may mahal nang iba
Di pa rin magbabago ang aking nadarama
Ako ay aasang magbabalik ka pa rin
Ang iyong pagmamahal at ang dating pagtingin


Dahil tanging ikaw ang siyang lahat
Nang mawalay ka nang minsa’y hindi ko matanggap
Kulang ang sandali pag ika’y wala
Sadyang kapag wala ka’y wala rin ang tuwa


Bakit kailangan puso ay masaktan
Bago maintindihan ang siyang nararamdaman
At kahit iwasa’y naro’n sa damdamin
Yakap at mga halik ay nadarama pa rin


Dahil tanging ikaw ang siyang lahat
Nang mawalay ka nang minsa’y hindi ko matanggap
Kulang ang sandali pag ika’y wala
Sadyang kapag wala ka’y wala rin ang tuwa

Bakit nga ba? Aside from the reason/s stated in the song, there are so many instances where one really gets hurt to realize that love.

"Mahal kita kahit ang sakit-sakit na!!!"

Ayan! One famous line from John Lloyd Cruz. Ano na ngang movie yun?

Sige, tama na ang pa-cute!

Here are some instances that love is getting in the way to hurt you:

1. Jealousy. Nasasaktan ka 'pag ang minamahal mo ay nasa piling ng iba. Hindi ka mapakali and you get paranoid. Then, you get insecured. It's up to you what happens next.
2. Reject. Ouchy huh? Getting rejected by the one you love can hurt like being shot by a gun. You expected at least somehow, that person will love you in return. But then again, he/she cannot.
3. He/She is in love with someone else. Its similar with reject. Likewise, it can lead to jealousy. You've been wanting to be in a relationship and eventually end up with this person, only to find out that he/she cannot love you back because he/she is already in a company of a better half. Puedeng naunahan ka lang or it's not really meant to be.
4. Death of a loved one/When the person left. You'd taken the person for granted while he/she was still alive and not realize his/her importance until he/she is gone. Sometimes, we don't value the person enough despite his/her love until he/she gets tired and leave you for someone or something better, that's the time we only realize what we lost.

Bakit kailangan na puso ay masaktan? Dahil doon lang natin naiintindihan ang totoong nararamdaman. Doon natin napagtatanto ang totoong sinisigaw ng ating mga puso. At doon tayo mas natututong magmahal.

Usually, we don't feel it when we're happy. We take it for granted. If things went wrong, that's the time when we realize the love.

Or maybe, we don't recognize it when it's there because of the fear of getting hurt. But eventually, it's going to get there and we have no choice.

"Wag 'kang matakot masaktan. Dahil doon mo makikita ang tunay mo'ng kaligayahan..."

'Yan ang sinabi ng tatay ni Cristina sa kanya bago siya namatay sa pelikula na Pangako... Ikaw Lang. 'Yan ang naging payo niya sa kanya nung nasasaktan na siya ng dahil kay Vince. (Btw, Pangako... Ikaw Lang starred Aga Muhlach as Vince, Regine Velasquez as Cristina, Robert Arevalo as Cristina's Dad, Bobby Andrews, and many more).

Masaktan? 'Di talaga maiiwasan 'yun! It's part of life. Anyway, wala naman talagang masama 'pag minsan o madalas nasasaktan tayo. It's how we face it. However, don't let it eat you, ok?

Don't be scared. =] It's temporary.

Believe me, you'll be a better person if you face it with courage.

Personal advice ko naman, pray =] It's gonna help for sure. Ayt?

Just to Get Over Someone

I once asked my mom when I was in high school "bakit 'di mo makalimutan ang isang tao kahit gusto mo na siyang kalimutan?" She answered, "kasi 'di ka pa nakakahanap ng kapalit." A classmate from high school told me the same, "malilimutan mo lang siya pag nakahanap ka na ng iba". At first I believed them.

But sorry to say this (especially to my mom and that classmate from high school), and I guess most of you will agree with me that thinking of finding someone new just to get over someone IS TOTALLY WRONG!!! It's love on a rebound! IT'S A FOUL! Never mind if your being unfair to that someone you want to get over with or not. But don't you find it unfair to the one you are just using so you can get over the other one. Most of all, you are NOT being true to yourself.

So, what's the best thing to do? First, LET GO! Let go of your feelings. Let go of all the pains and hurt that have been holding you back. Let go of all you negative beliefs. Let go of that someone. Then, ACCEPT! Accept that it's not meant to be (maybe for the moment. We'll never know). Accept what happened. Accept that someone's shortcomings and yours as well. Accept changes. Lastly, MOVE ON! Don't take control of everything. Try to follow destiny and see where it is going to take you. Meet new friends and be open to all possibilities. Just don't settle right ahead.

To Be Loved and To Be Safe

Figure it out. Can you possibly be loved and be safe at the same time? I don't really know if somebody has given a thought about it - whether if it's possible or not.

Do you really have to impose safety in a relationship? In what sense? Does security means safety? Well, I think I just have to break it all down randomly.

Financial Safety

True, magastos din ang love kahit papano. It sucks that the concept of love has been too commercial and overrated nowadays na tipong siya ang madalas na themes sa songs, tv series, and movies.

The courtship stage is also expensive. Of course, it's in this stage that you really give all your best until you hit the spot. Then after you hit the spot, it's either you continue the expense maintenance or trim it down. But at least you got it in the end.

But the most expensive of all is marriage - from the wedding to setting up your family. 'Nuff said I guess.

But can financial safety and love really combine? I don't think so. Money, as they say, can buy you happiness, but not love.

Marry for love and not money.

Emotional Security

Most of us thinks that to be secured, one has to be in a relationship. I guess it's to boost self-esteem. Perhaps it's also to be "in" with your peers.

When you reach your mid-20s and up, that's the time when most of us feel insecure of not yet being in a relationship. Tipong ano ba'ng mali? Pangit ba ako? Kulang ba ako sa ayos? O dapat ako na ang manligaw? Pathetic. Until we forget the true essence of being in a relationship - it's love.

Standards

We usually set standards for ideal partners (e.g. must be good-looking, smart, ambitious, etc.) Oh c'mon! How sure are you in the first place that you deserve someone like that?

Everybody deserves to be loved. It's just that not everybody deserves the love of everyone.

Because You're on the Same Wavelength or Exact Opposites

Maswerte ako ngayon na at least, may hawig sa ugali ko at interests ko ang mga guys na na-e-encounter ko ngayon. Natuto na rin akong matipuhan sila unti-unti. But still, it won't guarantee love in the end. It's just that, I can easily get along with them.

But usually, I always fall for my exact opposites. And it was never peaceful for me - it's always a mess. Some of them I truly loved, some of them were nang-gago lang.

Couples are actually different. There are somewhat of the same interests and character and some are exact opposites of each other. Have nothing against with them. But for me, personally, I decided to go for someone who's at least 85-90% same character with me. But still, love should exist.

It's Your Decision!!!

Madaming sulsol sa mundo at 'di maiiwasan yun. Nakakainis 'yun lalo na 'pag kapamilya mo ang sulsol. Minsan nadadala tayo - mabuti sana kung talagang mahal natin yung tao, pa'no kung hindi? Masisisi mo ba yung mga nagsulsol? P*cha hindi!

Why do you need to please people anyway when you're in love? Ikaw naman ang makikipag-relasyon 'di ba?

Love Vs. Obsession Vs. Lust

DON'T EVER MISTAKE LOVE FOR OBSESSION AND LUST. It's totally different.

In lust, you focus on the sexual aspect - it's more on the physical. While in love, you focus on the whole person - his beauty inside and out.

If you're obssessed, you want to be with the person the whole time. You take control of him/her. You won't let go of him no matter what it takes. In love, there's trust. You let go of the person when you have to, even if it hurts.

My bottomline: You can be loved and be safe at the same time. It's just that they don't mix.


Malinaw ba?

The Drama That Gave Birth to This Site

Sabi nila, minsan ka lang magmamahal ng tapat, kaya nga pag natagpuan mo na siya, hindi mo dapat ito pakawalan.

Kaya lang minsan, napagtatanto mo lang na mahal mo na ang isang tao kapag wala na siya sa paligid mo at mahirap na siyang matagpuan pa. Magkita man kayo muli, maaaring wala na siyang pagtingin sa'yo. Kung meron man, nanaig na sigurado sa kanya ang poot o ang sakit na dinulot mo sa kanya. Dahil dun, malamang wala ng pag-asa na magkamabutihan pa.
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Sabi rin nila, kapag mahal mo ang isang tao palalayain mo siya. Kusa siyang babalik sa'yo kung kayo ang nakatadhana.
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Minsan naghahanap tayo ng pag-ibig. Kakahanap ng kakahanap natin ay lalong hindi ito matagpuan. Kakahanap din natin ay nalalagpasan ito. May mga darating ngunit tayo'y lilinlangin lamang. May totoong magmamahal ngunit hindi natin matutunang mahalin. May darating, magmamahal at mamahalin natin, ngunit sa takot na masaktan muli, hindi natin ito tatanggapin
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Hindi rin porket pinakitaan ka ng pagmamahal e yun na rin iyon. Malamang ito ay totoo o pagkukunwari lamang. Masakit mang isipin, hindi lahat nang ating nakikita, naririnig o nararamdaman ay totoo.
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Takot akong magmahal. Takot akong masaktan. Ilan lang ito sa mga katotohanang hindi ko maikakaila. Pilit kong tinatakasan ang isang pagmamahal dahil ang akala ko ay makakalimutan ko rin ito. Ngunit mali ako. Minsan nang naisip na maaaring siya na nga. Pero ang gulo! Malamang marahil, isa lamang siya sa mga nakatadhanang magbigay ng kulay sa buhay ko, hindi ang nakatadhana.
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Sana nga, sana nga... ano man ang aking kapalaran, maging maligaya ako dahil maraming beses na akong nagmahal at minahal, ngunit maraming beses nang nasaktan... At kung masasaktan lang muli, mabuting hindi na lang...